Pain ... Feeling Our Way Through It

The current state of affairs is one word….painful. Painful to experience. Painful to watch. Painful to process. It feels like everything is spiraling out of control. It feels daunting and diminishing. The swirling tsunami of emotions that comes along with processing all of this, is of a magnitude that we aren’t used to.

So, how do we move past it? By feeling through it.

Feeling through this pain right now is all-consuming. It causes aches in our hearts, lethargic days with no desire or motivation and short, surface level conversations. But, these are ways to avoid feeling it. I should know, I have spent most of my days numbing to avoid the pain. And to be honest, those days feel like a blur. Looking back, I am so sad that I didn’t honor myself the time to feel what I was feeling. It’s almost like a slap in the face…to myself. For myself, numbing manifested as laying in bed all day. Or mindlessly scrolling my phone for hours to avoid my own thoughts. It also meant overindulging so I could actually feel something other than pain.

Even as I write this, my eyes begin to fill with tears because it is devastating to think about how avoiding pain can also mean we are sort of giving up on our healing journey. Now, I know that giving up is a triggering word, but it can be freeing. Freeing to admit that a circumstance is not living up to what we truly deserve to experience. When we also think about feeling the pain in our lives, that is also an extremely freeing and liberating experience.

Unfortunately, our society does not make it easy for us to feel through our pain. Instead, the perpetuation of fear and scapegoating is all around us. It is easier for us to mask our pain in this society, than to connect to what needs to be healed so we can shift into more evolved individuals. Doing the inner work takes dedication and perseverance. People that do the inner work and heal themselves become invincible, so you can see why most people gravitate towards avoiding the pain. And each battle doesn’t always get easier, but you do become more resilient each time.

I hope that you have the space in your life to feel your pain and heal it. I hope that you know that those moments of pain are short-lived when you find time to come back home to yourself.

Love & Light